Recently circumstances made me wonder about the "What If's" in my life. I wondered whether my choices have led me down the correct path, the path that I was meant to be on or whether my life was supposed to be entirely different from the one I am living. Would I have been happier in this alternate reality with wholly different choices or am I happier now?
Some would say having these thoughts are silly, that what is the point in wondering about things that aren't a possibility but I feel everyone is ruled by their what ifs at some point in life even if they don't go into too much depth in these thoughts but then again this is me. People who know me know that I tend to over think a little too much than an average person would.
Why do people have the tendency to wonder more about the differences in their choices rather than just living with them, gaining an acceptance of their actions. I believe it's mainly because every person is struggling to find their own version of happiness. Every human being wants their own piece of a happy ending ( I think binge watching Once upon a time is showing an effect on my writing :P) But are we going about finding our happiness in the right way? What defines happiness? It's never going to be a state of being, not when life is such that things are constantly changing. You have to learn to take the good with the bad, focus on life's adventures and not on the possibility of another path or choice. Happiness is not a destination, it's the very path. It's in most of the experiences in life and it's necessary to learn to cherish them.
But we are all always unsatisfied, always wanting something more and what that more is, most of us have no clue. Rather that enjoy the journey, we are more focused on the end goal, our destination but what we fail to understand is that there is no end except of course "the end". You achieve one goal and you are onto the next one, nothing will ever be enough, it's just a persons inherent nature. It's not wrong to want more in your life, what's wrong is failing to be aware of the moments in life while you are trying to achieve this ever elusive 'more'.
It's necessary to be present in life and enjoy the moments that make up all the memories because in the end that is what will matter the most, not whether you achieved all your goals but the people you met along the way, the people you brought happiness and made proud. The people, the moments, the memories is what get's every person through life and are the most vivid things to remember in the end.
